Success is merely just a matter of Time. Time can stand in between u and Success, but know this..Time is forever moving and therefore can only stand in your way for so long.
-CP
Thursday, January 19, 2012
Tick Tock.. Stop looking at the clock
Success is merely just a matter of Time. Time can stand in between u and Success, but know this..Time is forever moving and therefore can only stand in your way for so long.
-CP
Tuesday, January 17, 2012
Preparation Time: 23 years
"If you never take the next step, you'll always be stuck in the same place"
Love . Hmm ok . Love dumped me on a corner and said "I'm sorry" Love told me "you'll be fine" Love took me on a long painful journey just to show me how to let go but best of all love broke me so that i could be molded into a better me. (And yes i meant better not bitter) ..oh love, such a unique character, right.
Well let me start by saying this excerpt is not about a boy that did me wrong. But it does start out that way. The way it ends, and in a lot of ways begins, is all about an unconditional love. A love that at times told me "no" or "not yet" and dealt with all my moods. This particular love took away the "love" I thought I had and replaced it with a genuine i love you no matter what and only want the best for you kind of love. Yes, I'm speaking of God's love. So I was in a situation with a boy where I was content yet still loving it and praying hard that it would all work out in the end. I had a job where I was less content and praying that I could just be a trust fund baby. God answered my prayers. 1st he said NO to that relationship and then he said NOT YET to a new job, you just aren't ready. I didn't know it at the time but when I look back I can see that God was about to take me on a journey but first He needed me to let go .. And let God. God had been preparing me for something better. But of course I was blind to see any good in the situation. I got a call to move my life out of state and i remember telling God, "Ya'know God, I know I said lead and I will follow but this wasnt my plan at all" God laughed soooo hard. If God hadn't told me NO , I'm not sure I would have taken this opportunity. I loved my life and I still miss my friends and family but where I'm at now is such a huge testimony of God's unfailing love for me. You see sometimes God will knock you off your high horse so that you can stand on His word. I know that sometimes things get tough and we face tribulations but think of it as a God preparing us for something greater. The big picture isnt always the most obvious and sometimes God calls us to take that next step without looking down.
Love . Hmm ok . Love dumped me on a corner and said "I'm sorry" Love told me "you'll be fine" Love took me on a long painful journey just to show me how to let go but best of all love broke me so that i could be molded into a better me. (And yes i meant better not bitter) ..oh love, such a unique character, right.
Well let me start by saying this excerpt is not about a boy that did me wrong. But it does start out that way. The way it ends, and in a lot of ways begins, is all about an unconditional love. A love that at times told me "no" or "not yet" and dealt with all my moods. This particular love took away the "love" I thought I had and replaced it with a genuine i love you no matter what and only want the best for you kind of love. Yes, I'm speaking of God's love. So I was in a situation with a boy where I was content yet still loving it and praying hard that it would all work out in the end. I had a job where I was less content and praying that I could just be a trust fund baby. God answered my prayers. 1st he said NO to that relationship and then he said NOT YET to a new job, you just aren't ready. I didn't know it at the time but when I look back I can see that God was about to take me on a journey but first He needed me to let go .. And let God. God had been preparing me for something better. But of course I was blind to see any good in the situation. I got a call to move my life out of state and i remember telling God, "Ya'know God, I know I said lead and I will follow but this wasnt my plan at all" God laughed soooo hard. If God hadn't told me NO , I'm not sure I would have taken this opportunity. I loved my life and I still miss my friends and family but where I'm at now is such a huge testimony of God's unfailing love for me. You see sometimes God will knock you off your high horse so that you can stand on His word. I know that sometimes things get tough and we face tribulations but think of it as a God preparing us for something greater. The big picture isnt always the most obvious and sometimes God calls us to take that next step without looking down.
Monday, November 7, 2011
A woman's intuition
Ok if there's 2 statements/words of wisdom I live by, they would be:
1. There is nothing more powerful than a woman's rage.
2. A womans intuition is usually right on point.
I'm not talking about being a crazy jealous insecure kind of person (because id consider myself a pretty confident dont give a damn person) rather a pretty sane person that suddenly notices a change so to speak.
Let's say you start dating a guy and it's going pretty well like he sends you texts everyday, inquires about future plans for the week and makes plans to see you again so youre thinking eveything is going pretty well. But then one Monday you look at your phone in the morning and although it looks normal displaying the time and such,there's something missing. After you get dressed and reach work you find yourself checking your phone again and you're thinking it's by habit but really it's this uneasy feeling you have. And then it hits you as you scramble to the bottom of your purse to look at your phone, you realize what you were looking for. That good morning text or that sorry I passed out last night text is no where to be found. Not to worry you tell yourself, he's probably still sleeping.
Ladies 99 % of the problem lies here and it's crucial that you catch it early. This is where we've made that first excuse for the guy and there's no excuse for phasing out anyone. You suddenly find yourself through the middle of the day re checking your texts and wondering if there's something wrong with your phone. Later that day you jump up at the sound of your phone and there's a sigh of relief , it's him. There's no reference to the dead air time between then and yesterday but you forget it and move on like you weren't worried. Ok so now we've reached the part in the phone call or text where intuition is even stronger than before. Men don't think so but women can read a man pretty well ( they aren't the most complicated species). You hear something in their voice that doesn't sound like how it was before but you can't put your finger on it . The text he sends are kinda short and to the point. You feel like you want this conversation to last so you can figure out the whole issue while at the same time you're wishing the conversation would just end because it's torturous to go through.
When the conversation ends you call your bff just to talk and she asks about him and you explain the situation but pretend that you aren't too concerned but what you're looking for is that confirmation from your BFF saying "well yea dont worry didn't you say he'd be really busy with blah blah blah this weekend" it's so obvious to both of you what's happening but neither want to admit that you are being phased out so instead you make excuses. Over the next week he makes small talk but never makes plans. Your frustration grows fierce and eventually those phone calls and text fade away just like you did from his mind.
My point is follow your first intuition and save yourself the time and frustration.
1. There is nothing more powerful than a woman's rage.
2. A womans intuition is usually right on point.
I'm not talking about being a crazy jealous insecure kind of person (because id consider myself a pretty confident dont give a damn person) rather a pretty sane person that suddenly notices a change so to speak.
Let's say you start dating a guy and it's going pretty well like he sends you texts everyday, inquires about future plans for the week and makes plans to see you again so youre thinking eveything is going pretty well. But then one Monday you look at your phone in the morning and although it looks normal displaying the time and such,there's something missing. After you get dressed and reach work you find yourself checking your phone again and you're thinking it's by habit but really it's this uneasy feeling you have. And then it hits you as you scramble to the bottom of your purse to look at your phone, you realize what you were looking for. That good morning text or that sorry I passed out last night text is no where to be found. Not to worry you tell yourself, he's probably still sleeping.
Ladies 99 % of the problem lies here and it's crucial that you catch it early. This is where we've made that first excuse for the guy and there's no excuse for phasing out anyone. You suddenly find yourself through the middle of the day re checking your texts and wondering if there's something wrong with your phone. Later that day you jump up at the sound of your phone and there's a sigh of relief , it's him. There's no reference to the dead air time between then and yesterday but you forget it and move on like you weren't worried. Ok so now we've reached the part in the phone call or text where intuition is even stronger than before. Men don't think so but women can read a man pretty well ( they aren't the most complicated species). You hear something in their voice that doesn't sound like how it was before but you can't put your finger on it . The text he sends are kinda short and to the point. You feel like you want this conversation to last so you can figure out the whole issue while at the same time you're wishing the conversation would just end because it's torturous to go through.
When the conversation ends you call your bff just to talk and she asks about him and you explain the situation but pretend that you aren't too concerned but what you're looking for is that confirmation from your BFF saying "well yea dont worry didn't you say he'd be really busy with blah blah blah this weekend" it's so obvious to both of you what's happening but neither want to admit that you are being phased out so instead you make excuses. Over the next week he makes small talk but never makes plans. Your frustration grows fierce and eventually those phone calls and text fade away just like you did from his mind.
My point is follow your first intuition and save yourself the time and frustration.
Friday, November 4, 2011
Deal breakers
This is about pet peeves that can potentially turn into deal breakers .
My current relationship
Is.. Well .. non existent. Or not yet but in the making. Yea that sounds better.
Ive been Thinking about my current situation and different scenarios ive encountered over time and there are certain things I absolutely love about a man and some things that are point blank deal breakers.
Love it.
*A man with muscles. I don't mean a gym rat but when you can put your arms around me and I can feel that definition it's a good thing.
*if you can pick up the phone and CALL me you have just earned 20 points. Texting is great but a phone call is just perfect for a "just called to see how your day is going or say goodnight" kinda thing.
*Knowledge of ALL the kardashian sisters and not just Kim. It's like okay weve all seen Kim ( in more ways than one) but knowing Kourtney is the best is a true indicator of good pop culture.
* ok , I am not the grammar police but if you made it to 7th grade you should know how to use there,their, and they're. When used correctly it's a turn on but if not .. Well that brings me to deal breakers.
* poor vocabulary - it's so disappointing to me when a guy asks me "what does that mean?" when in fact I thought my "big word" should be apart of everyday vocab
* (this is for my colored brothas) Please please don't call me bougie because you came up to me with a hunched over back while rubbing your hands together like it's cold saying "hey shawty whatchu tryin to get into tonight can I get chur numba" ...it ain't gon happen
* im all for being a gentleman but holding a door open for me when I'm 20 ft away just pisses me off .. Like I don't wanna run awkwardly to the door when I could have taken my time and swung it open myself
* PDA has always bothered me .. It's just awkward to know people are watching me and whoever else so closely it just feels like an invasion of privacy..so I've never been a fan until recently when I can't seem to stop showing off.
* Refrain from rolling down the window on the passenger side when youre driving. I just feel that each individual should have control of their own window. If I was hot I am fully capable of rolling down my own window ( this rule applies to everyone) so don't ask me if I'm cold when you see me shivering with goosebumps because that in itself should tell you about the temperature my body is feeling.
*last but not least if you ever pat me on the back or on the head or touch me unnecessarilly in any way . Well it's safe to say we won't have relations of any kind.
My point Is pet peeves can turn into deal breakers if youre not careful. Of course these listed are not all inclusive . I've definitely left out some major things from this list (i.e. Broke, no aspirations, anyone that whistles for fun ect.) but I thought I'd focus solely on recent behavior I've endured.
Your welcome.
My current relationship
Is.. Well .. non existent. Or not yet but in the making. Yea that sounds better.
Ive been Thinking about my current situation and different scenarios ive encountered over time and there are certain things I absolutely love about a man and some things that are point blank deal breakers.
Love it.
*A man with muscles. I don't mean a gym rat but when you can put your arms around me and I can feel that definition it's a good thing.
*if you can pick up the phone and CALL me you have just earned 20 points. Texting is great but a phone call is just perfect for a "just called to see how your day is going or say goodnight" kinda thing.
*Knowledge of ALL the kardashian sisters and not just Kim. It's like okay weve all seen Kim ( in more ways than one) but knowing Kourtney is the best is a true indicator of good pop culture.
* ok , I am not the grammar police but if you made it to 7th grade you should know how to use there,their, and they're. When used correctly it's a turn on but if not .. Well that brings me to deal breakers.
* poor vocabulary - it's so disappointing to me when a guy asks me "what does that mean?" when in fact I thought my "big word" should be apart of everyday vocab
* (this is for my colored brothas) Please please don't call me bougie because you came up to me with a hunched over back while rubbing your hands together like it's cold saying "hey shawty whatchu tryin to get into tonight can I get chur numba" ...it ain't gon happen
* im all for being a gentleman but holding a door open for me when I'm 20 ft away just pisses me off .. Like I don't wanna run awkwardly to the door when I could have taken my time and swung it open myself
* PDA has always bothered me .. It's just awkward to know people are watching me and whoever else so closely it just feels like an invasion of privacy..so I've never been a fan until recently when I can't seem to stop showing off.
* Refrain from rolling down the window on the passenger side when youre driving. I just feel that each individual should have control of their own window. If I was hot I am fully capable of rolling down my own window ( this rule applies to everyone) so don't ask me if I'm cold when you see me shivering with goosebumps because that in itself should tell you about the temperature my body is feeling.
*last but not least if you ever pat me on the back or on the head or touch me unnecessarilly in any way . Well it's safe to say we won't have relations of any kind.
My point Is pet peeves can turn into deal breakers if youre not careful. Of course these listed are not all inclusive . I've definitely left out some major things from this list (i.e. Broke, no aspirations, anyone that whistles for fun ect.) but I thought I'd focus solely on recent behavior I've endured.
Your welcome.
Thank God I found the GOOD in goodbye
I recently made the decision to move away from EVERYTHING i know in order to initiate the commencement of the next chapter in my life. I also recently came across my 23rd birthday. With everything occurring at the same time, it seemed to me that the celebration of my birthday was completely overshadowed by my soon to be absence from my friends and family. Instead of being upset and sad about this, I suddenly realized that I was immensely blessed with so many friends and family that loved me. My closest friend informed me long ago that the road to your dreams is lonely one. I am more than excited to go on this journey and Im sure that this is where God wants me to be right now but I will always miss the relationships that I left behind…some temporarily and some for good. Another friend reminded me that its okay to be all about me right now in the most unselfish way. As nicki minaj said ” i came to win, to fight, to conquer, to thrive, to survive, to prosper, to rise…. get ready for it”. I have a vision for my life and this is my plan that I’m putting in action. i believe that a vision without a plan is a mere hallucination. For all of you that know how to run your mouth about all the money your gonna make by being the next Drake or Michael Vic or Lebron … well I’m not saying its impossible but I am saying its time to get a plan because selling your moms old shoes on ebay is not going to get you featured on the next episode of MTV cribs. So pull up your pants and learn proper english and for the love of God please say goodbye to those sandals because you haven’t made it yet and nobody is taking you seriously. And ladies, chances are your sugar daddy will say good bye to you for his wife and kids and your video vixen days are coming to an end..Lil Wayne barely paid his child support last week.. just sayin. Why is it that what we forget that the same thing we are looking for in a man (job, ambitions, stability, car) is the same thing men are looking for in us. Its time to shape up and be noticed for the right reasons. When people or important people look at you, what do they really see? Everyone makes first judgements and gives first impressions. All I’m saying is present yourself how you’d like to see yourself in your future. We are young right now but so was Mark Zuckerberg when he made a plan or “stole an idea” (still controversial) to make a social networking site that would make him a billionaire. Remember that in life we keep learning and wisdom comes with growing.
Ive surrounded myself with the best possible friends i could ever ask for. They motivate me to be a better me. They are a detrimental part to the story I am able to tell today. Yes I did have to say a momentary goodbye to them but we are all excited about our futures. That is why when I said my first goodbyes at my birthday party , i was so excited and grateful because I wouldn’t be where I am today without these people that give me advice, correct me when I’m wrong, and laugh with me till I cry. I just want to say thank you for encouraging me in my aspirations of designing and becoming a great respectable business woman.
When leaving a situation, it is important to make a statement by making a dramatic exit. I'm just hoping my exit was unforgettable .
Ive surrounded myself with the best possible friends i could ever ask for. They motivate me to be a better me. They are a detrimental part to the story I am able to tell today. Yes I did have to say a momentary goodbye to them but we are all excited about our futures. That is why when I said my first goodbyes at my birthday party , i was so excited and grateful because I wouldn’t be where I am today without these people that give me advice, correct me when I’m wrong, and laugh with me till I cry. I just want to say thank you for encouraging me in my aspirations of designing and becoming a great respectable business woman.
When leaving a situation, it is important to make a statement by making a dramatic exit. I'm just hoping my exit was unforgettable .
Summer fling..don't mean a damn thing
Being seen is very important to most people. Being recognized is whats important to me. Knowing how you want people to see you is the most difficult part and the most important key in having your OWN style meaning you OWN your look. Fashion is painting yourself the color you want and being happy with that. The only way I thought I could truly paint myself is to create my own look from scratch. Whether it be creating homemade clothes on my singer sewing machine or not mixing, but MATCHING certain pieces of clothes and accessories together, in this blog I plan on portraying the person I want everyone to notice; the confident woman I am who struggles with her flaws everyday but also able to have fun with it …In style.
Not everything will be appropriate or grammatically correct, some topics and or outfits might be more risqué than one would like. Point is, Im posting with a purpose (TBA at a later date). There’s a story behind every outfit and I’m here to share the inspiration inside of it all.
Here’s the story
Somewhere between the I.E and the O.C a boy and a girl fell in love. And somewhere between infidelity and an “unplanned” pregnancy they fell towards the hate category. And somewhere between all of that were summer flings, christmas eves, and fourth of julys full of a secret romance they shared together. We’ve all experienced a summer fling where we create this facade where everything seems to be perfect and at the end of the summer we go back to our real lives WITHOUT the guy. We’re forced to believe that somehow we’re better off without each other even though that guy told you he saw his future with you. I guess he meant that his future ended at the end of summer. I wonder why he told those lies and why at the end of summer he suddenly felt it was time to go back to his family. I’m not saying thats bad. I believe that a family should be together and i commend him on stepping up to the plate. But I don’t understand how he could say he made it perfectly clear that it wouldnt last. Because it wasn’t clear when he held my hand or when he said he loved me or every night we went home ..together. I guess this is where it really needs to end. for good. At the end of the day I’ve said all I can and walked away proud of my outfit which, of course, was tear stained but still clung to my skin and moved effortlessly with every stride I took in those heels. As change would have it, I am definitely ready for winter!
Not everything will be appropriate or grammatically correct, some topics and or outfits might be more risqué than one would like. Point is, Im posting with a purpose (TBA at a later date). There’s a story behind every outfit and I’m here to share the inspiration inside of it all.
Here’s the story
Somewhere between the I.E and the O.C a boy and a girl fell in love. And somewhere between infidelity and an “unplanned” pregnancy they fell towards the hate category. And somewhere between all of that were summer flings, christmas eves, and fourth of julys full of a secret romance they shared together. We’ve all experienced a summer fling where we create this facade where everything seems to be perfect and at the end of the summer we go back to our real lives WITHOUT the guy. We’re forced to believe that somehow we’re better off without each other even though that guy told you he saw his future with you. I guess he meant that his future ended at the end of summer. I wonder why he told those lies and why at the end of summer he suddenly felt it was time to go back to his family. I’m not saying thats bad. I believe that a family should be together and i commend him on stepping up to the plate. But I don’t understand how he could say he made it perfectly clear that it wouldnt last. Because it wasn’t clear when he held my hand or when he said he loved me or every night we went home ..together. I guess this is where it really needs to end. for good. At the end of the day I’ve said all I can and walked away proud of my outfit which, of course, was tear stained but still clung to my skin and moved effortlessly with every stride I took in those heels. As change would have it, I am definitely ready for winter!
Monday, August 29, 2011
This too shall pass
Rarely do I ever look in my rear view mirror while driving so why is it that in life I can't take my eyes off my past
-C
As i sit here in this airport i cant help but look around and wonder... Where is everyone going?? Lately I've realized that were all making mistakes, learning, and maturing. Like wine, the more we age the better we get. A lot of people have the assumption that I'm fearless when it comes to that stuff but I'm not. I'm frustrated coming from a generation that's use to having everything handed to them right away. We want to know something or buy something on the go. Easy , just pull out your smart phone and look it up or make the purchase . Patience was never really required in my generation. So when I hear my elders (who had to walk to the library to look up something that i could find out on my iphone in 5 second while driving ) say be patient, your life will work out, you'll find a better guy, that perfect job is right around the corner, our economy is going through a rough time blah blah blah .... I just look at them confused like how could you expect me to be patient when I've never been taught to wait. It took me a minute to realize why my generation couldn't relate to the one before us. They expect patience from us and we want them to understand we dont have it. My early 20s is frustrating because I don't know what my future will be like and i want to know right now. Truth be told, I'm scared. I'm so ready to be a grown up and start living my new independent life but then I think of the what ifs. Like what if I hate it and I miss my old life. I know that in order to reach your future you have to let go of your past. But what happens if my future is worse than my past? What happens if i let go the relationships and the comfortable home and everything I know behind and my future relationships and home just don't measure up? That's what scares me. But if i dont take that risk of reaching my future, that scares me the most. The last thing I want is some 45 year old that has already figured out their life telling me that my 20s are the best times of my life. I know you know whats it's like to be 20 but do you know what its like to be 20 in the 21st century. That's what I thought. I mean You don't have to agree with me but studies have shown that most of a persons alcohol consumption is done in the early 20s because of a lack of direction a heightened depression and a desire to forget all the stress by drowning your sorrows with grey goose.
The future is exciting and kinda scary but I'm learning to have more patience and learning thats it's okay to let go of what i know and embrace change.
When you find yourself in an unpleasant situation, remind yourself that's it's not that bad. Jesus says this too shall pass.
-C
As i sit here in this airport i cant help but look around and wonder... Where is everyone going?? Lately I've realized that were all making mistakes, learning, and maturing. Like wine, the more we age the better we get. A lot of people have the assumption that I'm fearless when it comes to that stuff but I'm not. I'm frustrated coming from a generation that's use to having everything handed to them right away. We want to know something or buy something on the go. Easy , just pull out your smart phone and look it up or make the purchase . Patience was never really required in my generation. So when I hear my elders (who had to walk to the library to look up something that i could find out on my iphone in 5 second while driving ) say be patient, your life will work out, you'll find a better guy, that perfect job is right around the corner, our economy is going through a rough time blah blah blah .... I just look at them confused like how could you expect me to be patient when I've never been taught to wait. It took me a minute to realize why my generation couldn't relate to the one before us. They expect patience from us and we want them to understand we dont have it. My early 20s is frustrating because I don't know what my future will be like and i want to know right now. Truth be told, I'm scared. I'm so ready to be a grown up and start living my new independent life but then I think of the what ifs. Like what if I hate it and I miss my old life. I know that in order to reach your future you have to let go of your past. But what happens if my future is worse than my past? What happens if i let go the relationships and the comfortable home and everything I know behind and my future relationships and home just don't measure up? That's what scares me. But if i dont take that risk of reaching my future, that scares me the most. The last thing I want is some 45 year old that has already figured out their life telling me that my 20s are the best times of my life. I know you know whats it's like to be 20 but do you know what its like to be 20 in the 21st century. That's what I thought. I mean You don't have to agree with me but studies have shown that most of a persons alcohol consumption is done in the early 20s because of a lack of direction a heightened depression and a desire to forget all the stress by drowning your sorrows with grey goose.
The future is exciting and kinda scary but I'm learning to have more patience and learning thats it's okay to let go of what i know and embrace change.
When you find yourself in an unpleasant situation, remind yourself that's it's not that bad. Jesus says this too shall pass.
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